How Do I Heal and Move On...

"Been distracting myself at times but having to force myself to sit in the discomfort of understanding how I feel makes me want to take away all the pain that comes through when it does"

— Tired Eddy

Hello Tired Eddy,

Wanting to take all the pain away and to distract ourselves from the discomfort is what makes us human. Understanding and searching our feelings can be daunting and uncomfortable, especially if there are people expecting you to share your feelings and thoughts out loud. Some of us have been through thoughts similar to yours, we understand how sitting in the discomfort of understanding your feelings can be deafening, tiring and frustrating. 

Escape and distraction were things we also did to avoid our circumstances, but we realized that no matter how much we push it away, it always comes back. Eventually, those among us who were in such a circumstance managed to muster up the strength to face our obstacles head-on. It was extremely tiring. Some of us were also lucky to have people around for support, which spurred us on. We were always uncertain if we could make it out alright, but we faced our internal battles one step at a time. Eventually, we made it out of our dark tunnels. We were tired, but we were finally relieved, and what’s more, we have grown through our experiences. Such experiences have the ability to change the way one views things, and we initially thought that it was for the worse, but as we progressed through time, we realised that our changed mindset helped us tackle other situations differently than before. 

Healing and growth can come from hardship. We get it, it is painful to review our deepest thoughts and feelings, and we believe that doing that takes strength. Take your time, there is no deadline for figuring out emotions and feelings. Muster your strength, and take your obstacles one step at a time. We hope that your experience can also bring you growth, and relief when you have conquered your obstacles. You can do it.